How to Build a Routine That Will Change Your Life

 

Step 1: Break Free from Influencer Routines

 

Okay, let’s be real. We’ve all been there, scrolling through social media, watching those videos of influencers and creators sharing their morning routines, afternoon routines, and work routines. 

 

It’s fun, I get it. 

 

But here’s the thing: copying someone else’s routine won’t necessarily work for you. It might give you a temporary burst of inspiration, but what I’ve seen working with one-on-one clients is that it often leads to a sense of obligation rather than true empowerment.

 

Research shows that the more “shoulds” we have in our lives, the more we ignore our own needs and desires. And guess what? 

 

That’s a recipe for inconsistency and frustration. Instead, it’s time to focus on what truly works for you. So what should you be doing instead?

 

Step 2: Understand the Science of Behavior

 

Now, here’s where things get really interesting. Rather than following someone else’s arbitrary five step morning routines, let’s explore the science behind behavior. 

 

Have you ever heard of circadian rhythms? What about the impact of workout timing on your energy levels? I have another article going into further detail on The BEST Time of Day To Workout.

 

Now, in this article I could have given you a bunch of concrete tips to follow. You need to do this between 8:00 AM and 10:00 AM and this between 10:00 AM and 12:00 PM, and you know what? 

 

That article would have absolutely sucked because even if you took away things that you could implement in your life, they wouldn’t last. 

 

And as soon as your life shifted even a little bit, you wouldn’t know how to adjust your plan.

 

 

If you have a tendency to build a routine, follow it, and then something shifts and it all falls apart and you don’t know how to adapt and how to get back into your routine working for you… I want to let you in on a little secret.

 

Building a successful routine isn’t just about tips and tricks. It’s about developing a fundamental education in change skills. 

 

That’s why I’ve got tons of free blog articles on my website here that teach you how to think about behavior change as a set of skills you can grow over time. Trust me, it’s a game-changer.

 

Now, if you’re really trying to take your routine to the next level and you need a new fresh start. I highly recommend you check out the Change Academy membership. 

 

It is a month-to-month membership built for people like you who are self-help enthusiasts, but who are done with overloading themselves on self-help books and want to know the actual science and actual tools that they can use to change.

 

Step 3: Implement a Prototype Period

 

Now, here’s the exciting part. It’s time to put everything into action. But here’s the deal: give yourself permission to experiment.

 

 I call this the prototype period. It’s a specific timeframe where you can test out new habits without the pressure of long-term commitment.

 

Let me share a personal example. 

 

Recently, I decided to give meditation another try. In the past, I’ve struggled with consistency, but this time, I’m giving myself a concrete one-month trial period in order to test it out without the obligation to follow through down the line. 

 

I’ve said that meditation doesn’t work for me before, but I had never tried it for longer than two or three weeks. If I was expecting to see progress in the gym or anywhere else in two to three weeks, I would think I was crazy!

 

 

So now I’m meditating every day for five minutes for a period of one month, and then at the end of that month, I will evaluate whether I want to continue it.

 

This is important because so often people commit to a new habit, do it for a while, and then don’t follow through. 

 

But they never gave themselves an actual time period. Deciding to practice a new healthy habit with an indefinite timeline is only setting yourself up for failure.

Spoiler alert: Life changes, and that’s why you need concrete periods of what I would call prototype period.

 

How To Build A Routine Recap:

 

Building a routine that changes your life requires a personalized and science-based approach. It’s about embracing your uniqueness and understanding the principles of behavior. 

 

So, my friend, it’s time to break free from influencer routines, dive into the science, and give yourself the freedom to experiment.

 

If you’re struggling with a particular habit in your routine, drop a comment below. I’ll personally respond and offer you science-based ideas to integrate it effectively. 

 

And hey, don’t forget to check out my podcast, “The Work of Becoming,” where I dive deeper into these topics. It’s available on Spotify, Apple, Google, and more.

 

Are you ready to design a routine that empowers you to live your best life? Let’s embark on this life-changing journey together

 

 

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